How can therapy help you?
Therapy is one of the most powerful ways to invest in yourself. It can empower you to cope with life’s challenges, whether you’re struggling with your mental health, seeking guidance in your relationships, adjusting to life changes, coping with a divorce, losing a loved one, or just wanting to understand yourself better. There are many reasons for starting therapy, and it can be challenging to know where to begin, but more importantly, how do you pick the therapist that’s right for you?
How do you find the right therapist for you?
Before you decide to find a therapist, it is crucial to conduct a thorough evaluation. The first and foremost step is ensuring they have the qualifications to assist you.
There has been a concerning rise in the number of unqualified individuals who believe that a weekend or even a course lasting a few months is enough to establish a therapy practice. To avoid falling victim to their misleading claims, conducting a comprehensive interview with your potential therapist is essential.
Begin by inquiring about their training background. Where did they receive their education? How long did their training last? Additionally, it is important to determine which regulatory body they are affiliated with, as this ensures their adherence to professional standards.
Furthermore, confirming whether they possess an up-to-date Disclosure and Barring Service (DBS) certificate is imperative. This certification ensures that they have undergone the necessary background checks to work with vulnerable individuals.
Another crucial aspect to consider is their clinical experience. How many years have they been practising therapy? This will provide insight into their level of expertise and ability to handle various situations effectively.
Lastly, it is essential to inquire about their personal therapy experience. Have they undergone therapy themselves? This is important as it demonstrates their understanding of the therapeutic process and their ability to empathise with their clients.
Remember, your relationship with your therapist is the most important thing to consider. However, it is equally important that they possess the necessary knowledge and skills to assist you safely and effectively.
You can start by searching the internet to see whether a therapist is fully qualified. Professional bodies accept only therapists with a proven track record of years of intensive training and supervision. Several of them let you search for a registered therapist near you. The following list by mental health charity Mind is an excellent place to start:
The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) — for all kinds of counsellors and therapists
The Counselling Directory — for all types of counsellors and therapists
The British Association for Behavioural & Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP) — for cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) practitioners
The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) — for psychotherapists
The British Psychological Society (BPS) — for local therapists
Pink therapy — for therapists with LGBTQ+ experience
You’ll see that some of these sites allow you to filter your search by specific mental health concerns or topics, from addiction to stress and anxiety to depression.
Once you’ve found a professional body to begin your search, you will need to look for a therapist who specialises in your area of concern. For example:
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Trauma
- Grief or loss
- Relationship or marriage problems
- Divorce
- Borderline personality disorder
- Eating Disorders
- Addiction
- Domestic violence or abuse
- Sexual problems or infertility
- Rape or harassment
- Family or parenting problems
- Social or professional transitions
- Chronic pain or abuse
Why is it so important to find a good therapist?
Finding a therapist who specialises in your areas of concern, such as anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or simply for personal growth and development, is a good first step; however, seeking a therapist you connect with is hugely important, as successful therapy involves building a strong, collaborative relationship. This connection is deeply personal and can significantly impact the effectiveness of your therapy.
The therapist you resonate with on a personal level or who shares similarities with you might also challenge you, but only when they sense you’re ready for it. Exploring your discomfort or addressing triggering characteristics can be transformative, but a good therapist will have done years of work to manage discomfort – yours and theirs. A good therapist will calmly and confidently help you work through those feelings and hold a space for you without needing you to do the same for them.
What does therapy feel like?
Wondering what therapy will feel like is a valid concern. Feeling nervous, anxious, or guilty about starting therapy is normal. Confronting your deepest thoughts and emotions requires courage, especially with someone you’ve never met. So, congratulations on taking this important step.
Takeaway
Trust your gut: Listen to your instincts and feelings during the consultation or initial sessions. Therapy is a collaborative process; trust and rapport with your therapist are important. If something feels off or you don’t feel a connection, it’s okay to continue your search. Remember, finding the right therapist may take time and effort, but finding someone who can support you on your journey towards healing and growth is worth it.
